Communication

Communication is a big problem between men and women because there is a MAJOR communication gap between men and women that STARTS at birth. Think about it, young women are raised and taught to express their emotions, communicate and voice their feelings. Young boys on the other hand are taught that this kind of thing is seen as "soft" or not manly. We are never taught to express our innermost feelings nor are we encouraged to do do.

Now fast forward to adulthood. Many women WANT a man who is able to do these things and TALK to her. As men we are often unable to properly do this because we never nurtured that part of ourselves. In essense we have a stunted communicative skill in regards to our female counterparts. This and other factors contribute to the communication problem that men and women face. We must remove the stigma that comes with being men who can actually talk to our women and women must understand that they can be receptive of this possibility. With both sides willing, it can drastically change the dynamic. Just my thoughts though.

We can't get along long enough to get along......my people my people

I'm guessing then since I'm not enraged or angered by the women I've experienced and observed in my life then I don't feel the need to combat the the women who have nothing to do with my life. If I encounter one that can evoke anger from me then I'll address her on a one by one level. I can't see myself harping on all the "bad ones" especially if I've never met them all. Especially if I don't know the "why" she is the way she is. Everyone comes from a different background and I don't know every ones story so it's not logically sound to toss them all into the same box simply because they possess similar traits and mannerisms.

I can understand the standpoint. I just thought that men would rather take a higher route. Bickering with a woman over something like this should be be beneath a man. I can't sit and rehash a subject over and over and expect a different result. If these women are supposed to be so irrational, then how rational is it to continually attempt a connection to make them see their error? That's irrational and illogical.

The women that I've encountered never try to out man a man and it seems like every notion of "feminist supremacy" or conspiracy comes from a mans mind, sometimes that's just not what's going on. Fact is no matter what I say, there will always be someone not willing to listen that will find everything wrong with it and find every reason to not simply let go and move on. There can be no battle if there is NO battle. Meaning just stop. Our Black Women WANT to love us, will we let them? If we continue to hold onto these scars and wounds we will never heal as a people. THEY don't have to kill us off. We WILLFULLY commit slow genocide by the way we seem to hate each other. We have no accountability for ourselves as a whole. There are BIGGER problems on the world stage and we are stuck pointing fingers trying to one up each other. We can't even get along long enough to to realize how stupid we look fighting each other. And it's sad, it's draining, it's a miserable existence that only weakens us. Family, community, nation. FAMILY, COMMUNITY, NATION. we don't seem to want either. Men and women can't see eye to eye long enough to create family, families don't exist to strengthen a community and without a network of communities there can be no nation. We are DYING.........and no one his slitting our throats and we are holding the knife.

Men afraid to lead because WE can't even get on the same page. Noble and righteous traits are labeled simpdom, petty bickering and false leaders who lead our men to darkness and many are too blind to see it. We were molded long ago to hate ourselves and each other. We are too swallowed in mutual hate for one another that we cannot see passed our own noses. We have to wake up. There CAN be peace and there will be I won't give up and discard my people as easily as some others will. I believe in reaching out and pulling up my lost sisters and brothers. No need to kick them when we already perceive them as lower than us or scum. But EVERY man and woman is created equal so how dare we just dismiss them because they are not pleasing to us. No one is perfect yet we will treat those we deem unworthy as nothing. ....we all we once nothing in the eyes of masters..........have we forgotten?

We are still feeling the effects of it all, psychologically stunted in growth. So much that we won't allow ourselves to GET PASSED ourselves. We can't have peace because some people don't possess peace within........... nor do they want it.
Perception is reality and I just have to accept that my perception is not others reality. Especially if they refuse to see more than what's at the tip of the accusing finger. Focused so hard on one point in existence that the rest of the world ceases to exist.

The strongest prison ever created has no bars.......

Variety of people

I think we have too many cookie cutter types of people in the world. Too afraid to be themselves so they spend their lives imitating other people and not knowing it. It's ok to be a little weird, then again who sets the standard for "Normal". Be yourself regardless of what others think. Variety keeps this mud ball called Earth interesting. 

Understand This, for the Ladies

LADIES, WOMEN, bitches, hoes, hoodrats, bad bitches, aquafina flow title holders, Nikki minaj copies, birds, skeezers, whores, side chics, jump offs, feminists, Lesbians, Sista Soldiers and what ever else some females are calling themselves these days or acting like. what ever category you fall under or fit in, take a seat and listen read carefully, i don't explain myself often but when I do, take note. (side note, I figured i would cover all my bases, some folks call themselves one thing but identify with another and are REALLY something else, this way everyone can fit in)

I realize that some of my posts are a bit harsh but the truth hurts and in this life I've learned that you either accept it or it will eventually slap you in the face. TRUTH is that I care deeply for all women, no matter what walk of life you come from and for one main reason, i KNOW the greatness that resides within each and every one of you. So when i make posts that seem to criticize the lost souls of YOUR species it is not to degrade you or belittle your existence, it is to light a fire within your soul so that you can tap into the GREATNESS that i know is in you.

As with any journey there will be bumps in the road before you get to the final destination and with saying that i relate it to my style of speaking and writing, I often take the rough route to hit on a few sour patches that most others would avoid. with that said i understand that it would be easy for some to focus on the seemingly negative points and without knowing it miss the overall GOOD message that is really being presented. just like a puzzle you can't see the big picture if you are only looking at the individual pieces.

NOW with all that being said, just know that i am not a "woman basher" i simply believe that there are too many folks that glaze over the bad things in order to be politically correct and in doing so they become an enabler of less than desirable behavior and displays of sheer fuckery that some women show. as with anything the most negative things will ALWAYS get more attention than anything positive so no matter how great you are as an individual ladies, the bad seeds and the Bad bitches of the world tarnish YOUR name and YOUR image and create bad aspect that the rest of the world sees and will tend to clump you in with. I think that it's time YOU and the your sisters take charge and show everyone that you are not defined by these bad aspects that have helped create the stereotypes that we all have witnessed. also I charge any man with the right mind and drive to help UPLIFT the great women that are out there and encourage them to not conform to what society and other factors dictate but to step out and BECOME greater. show them that we LOVE and appreciate them and help them see that they do not have to become carbon copies of bad examples but they can CREATE new examples for young women to aspire to become.

Now that that is out of the way, I'll let you in on a little secret in regards to my love life and past. I have had some GREAT dating experiences and I've had some nightmares when it comes to the dating scene but the good out weighs the bad in such magnitude that i can never be a bitter man. I am good friends with just about everyone I've ever dated. every experience was a learning one and some worked out and some didn't but one fact remains is that i don't regret anything, nor do i regret any woman I've ever come across........ok there is one but, she was certified loco in de cabasa lol, she was nuttier than squirrel poop lol. but even so, that experience taught me how to really appreciate a good woman and show her how a man is suppose to treat a woman. it's true that sometimes it takes the bad to teach you how to recognize the good.

in closing, for future reference, if my posts make you feel some kind of way, if it angers you in some shape form or fashion, if you find yourself calling me out of my name because i stepped on your toes mentally.........GOOD!!! that let's me know that i'm telling the truth, i never want to be fake or sugar coat anything just to stroke some egos or cyberlly pat anyone on the back, if what i say makes you want to be a better person just to prove me wrong then my mission is accomplished. I am not a perfect person, truth be told i NEVER want to be, all i can be or ever strive to be is a better ME. All i want in the end is for myself, those around and anyone i can reach to do the same. sure it's not required of me in life but if it can help then i am doing something to make a difference in someone's life. Take care of each other and others will take care of you. have a great day. and if you read all of this.........you are cool in my book. thanks. peace.

MommaDear

I LOVED seeing my Grandmother yesterday, she's such a sweet little old lady lol. She has alzheimer's so conversation loops but it's endearing because she's so genuine and loving no matter what. She says "Baby well thank you for helping me in the house, do you know my son Billy Joe" Me: "yes ma'am that's my Dad" Her: "oh really *laughter* you're so youthful looking and handsome" Me: "Thank you MommaDear"

*5 minutes later*

Her: "And who are you, you're a handsome young man" Me: "thank you mamadear I'm your grandson, I'm Billy's Son" *She busts out laughing "WELL I'LL BE!!" Yall grew up so fast"  we talked like that for about an hour. I loved every minute. I remember when she was healthy, I'd clean her room and she'd give me 50 cents.  I'd take the money and run to the corner store and get a bag full of penny candy then go hide it under the bed. Any time I got in trouble I would run to her room and she would save me from a butt whooping saying "Billy leave that boy alone" the only time she got upset was when we played in the room where the "good furniture" was, of course it had the plastic on it lol. So many good memories. I remember once myself, my brother Zuberi Givens and my cousin Kelvin Smith were playing in the back field with a barrel, lots of wood and matches. You can see where this is going smh. We left the fire going and came in to eat lunch. Then we smell smoke, look out the back window and see the entire field on fire. We start freaking out and my Dad's car pulls up.........I'm a dead kid walking (x_x). My Dad walks in and he KNEW we had something to do with it, he starts fussing and I pretty much saw my life flash before me lol. Then MommaDear walks in and says "Billy I'm so glad you burned all that high grass back there, no telling what was crawling back there, snakes and OOOO I can't stand snakes, how do they walk with no legs". YES!!! He got the praise and my backside was safe to sit lol. I was saved!! No whooping but my Dad just looked at me and said "I owe you one" lol.

Memories like that stick out in my life, last night was no different.  Cherish your loved ones folks. Life is short and before you know it everyone is gone. What lasts forever are the moments we create together. 

Take the first step

MESSAGE OF THE DAY:

You can never finish anything if you never start.......
Don't let fear of failure or the perceived hardships on the way detour you from beginning the journey to success. Nothing worth having is easy. All it takes is that first step and you've already done the hardest part.......now just finish.

Chivalry thoughts revisited

Historically Chivalry was a particular code of conduct that Knights were held to These qualities are idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women. Common courteous behavior in a nutshell. Many men lack manners as a result of never being taught by an older gentleman. Also some men who DO practice chivalry don't display it simply for not having respectable women to attempt chivalrous behavior with. And my all time favorite. ......the women (not all) with the stank attitude that expect it but don't deserve it and the women (not all) that won't accept it based on previous interactions with assholes who fake it for phone numbers lol.

As a man who DOES practice chivalry I was taught by my father to always treat women with respect regardless of any circumstance. This sounds fine just saying it but in real world situations it's hard for us grown men to discern when to display our manners. This is because with so many differences in women out here and upbringing we can (at any given moment) meet one who is not receptive, doesn't want it, demands it, disregards it or in rare cases actually enjoys it and simply says thank you.

So many factors are included in this occurrence that I can't touch on each aspect but for right now these are just a few. Also we must take into account the role the "independent woman" movement introduced. On one hand you have women with the mentality that they need no man for anything, but still want us to display chivalry. ......wrap your brains around that one folks lol. Then there are the men who treat women right JUST to get sex and with that creates extremely cautious women that are skeptical of men with manners. So for us who DO act in genuine ways it's very disheartening when trying to be a certain way without knowing what comes next from the woman. So as we can see there are aspects from both sexes that add to the diminished idea of chivalry. But trust me it's not dead, just some bitches messed it up for grown women and some mitches screwed it up for grown men.