We don't love these hoes..... Yes you do

Truth is some Dudes LOVE hoes even though snoop said they didn't lol. If males didn't love hoes they'd truly show it in their actions by NOT fucking with them.

Fellas How many times have you walked into a club and asked your boy or been asked "where the hoes at?".......you didn't even come looking for decent women. But you damage your own image of women by primarily fucking with hoes. How? Because in a typical man's life he will have 2, 3 maybe 4 serious relationships, the rest of his time is wasted on "loving these hoes".

So now this man who primarily deals with hoes and has possibly had drama or even a few assumed relationships with them, loses touch with reality when it comes to dealing with an actual grown woman who won't take the same stuff he pulled with hoes.  He will find it difficult because the minimum requirements to appease basic hoes is not the same as with grown women. In most cases it won't last and guess where he ends up again? Fucking with hoes. That's like going back to a comfort food when you're depressed. It may feel good for the time being but it's not good for you. My advice, choose quality over quantity so your sense of discernment isn't corrupted by the company you keep. 

Mothers and daughters

Ladies you talk about how much you hate hoes and bad behaving females all the time, and rightfully so. But do you ever think about how much of an impact you have in your daughters lives? YOU are literally the first woman she encounters in life and as such you set the example of WHAT a woman is and HOW a woman should carry herself.

Are you instilling good qualities in them so that she knows what a decent man is and what treatment she should allow? Is she seeing first hand through your interaction with her father how a woman treats her mate? Or if single your dating habits?  What kind of men does she observe you with? She is a direct reflection of you.

so if you are constantly parading bad boys and thugs around guess what?
If you are unruly and less than respectable in your actions then guess what?

What are your thoughts, be honest?

Fathers and daughters

Fellas we talk about how much we hate hoes and dislike bad behaving women and rightfully so. But do we ever think about how much of an impact we truly have on our daughters lives? We are literally the first man she will ever encounter in life. Are we setting good examples and instilling qualities in them that ensure she allows the right men into her life when she becomes an adult?

The way we treat her mother and even the kinds of women we have in our lives that she observes will most likely shape how she perceives men and what she thinks is acceptable treatment. So if you are the bad boy type, or a thug type or anything you HOPE she never meets, guess what?
If you are constantly parading new girlfriend after new girlfriend in front of her then guess what? Children pick up on a LOT more than we think........

So what are your thoughts, be honest.

Men and males

There's a HUGE difference between MEN and typical MALES .......that's the most simple way I can explain this lol. A grown man will not play mind games with you or make you question his motives, trust me, you will know EVERY intention he has with you and whether or not you fit into his future AND at what capacity. A typical male will not be what you are looking for ever, bottom line. He'll ACT the part to get what he wants from you and possibly string you along if you allow it but that's it. Discernment is very important. Many women (also different than typical females) have been dealing with males and to be honest don't know how to act when they encounter a grown man that's about truly building. Often times her doubt alone can cause her to over think and even mess up the situation. Why? Because she's throwing up guards that are usually reserved for the typical males she's been dating.

And sadly, a grown man usually won't have time to rebuild you, not being cold but it's more of a headache tearing down walls THEN getting to know YOU than just seeking a ready and compatible woman who's ready. That's my take on it. 

Winning isn't everything

Winning isn't everything but it sure feels great when you get use to it. Truth is, losing isn't a total loss when you learn something from it. Don't be afraid to fail every now and then, sometimes the lessons learned can teach you more about yourself than you ever knew. That in itself is a win on another level. .....

Now if you lose ALL the time, that's not a win, you actually suck at life......no seriously..... Kill yourself lolol. (Don't do that, I'm joking......you still suck though)

That's my random thought for the day. Have a good one folks.

Black men, Mediocre should not be our default setting

Some men are out to become successful just to get women, in my opinion that's even worse because they are doing it for all the wrong reasons. Any success gained holds less value and adds nothing to the overall person in the realm of development. The ambitious nature is only manifested in order to attract women for sex and not to better self and community as a whole, that in my opinion is a man lead by the wrong head and is of no use to anyone forward thinking. We've got to hold ourselves to a higher standard fellas. While it's true, many women are attracted to success, understand that many of the wrong women are as well. You can't base the quality of the woman on your level of success without good skills of discernment. You can end up broke that way. 

I can agree that some men do those things for pussy or a "look at me now" reason more than anything. As far as financial stability, that's a funny one seeing as how many men can talk their way into pussy (doesn't matter the race) for free by "running game" and selling dreams to avoid the friendzone (tossed that in for the gripers) lol. And again if they can do that without actually having the money they have no motivation to actually live the life they portray, this holds true for any man not just one race. We gotta get out of this whole race thing, gets old. Time to stop focusing on others. Truth is, pussy rules some men's lives and that in itself is a problem. Making too many excuses and trying to be "real niggas" is a problem. 

Many men have a practice of "just getting by" and blaiming others when they cannot succeed. Truth is too many lack the drive to actually work hard to succeed in anything. Too many are comfortable with mediocrity. Then if any woman downs him because she sees the potential in him, they claim that she's emasculating him. Truth is son you emasculated yourself the minute you thought a woman would accept you in your current state. If you are comfortable just getting by no respectable woman will want you pulling her down as well. You can't expect her to submit if you barely have drive to become more. You have to get off your ass and stop trying to just get some ass and focus on gaining assets. That's logical. Get your priorities in order. That's a whole other discussion in itself. 

As men we should strive to better ourselves in all aspects, not just financial stability. Personal development, spiritual strengthening, leadership skills and mental strength are all important as well to become a more complete being. Mediocre should never be our default setting.

Being happy

being happy or rich shouldn't be measured by your status or your material possessions you acquired before dying, rather it is determined by the appreciation of things that are irreplaceable like, moments, memories created, family and friends and time spent while you still live. ---some guy named Shai