Poker love leads to failure

folks we gotta stop with the poker love syndrome, i can't stand to hear a person say "well what are you bringing to the table" or "if they treat me right, i will do right"......what kind of Love are we seeking? how can you expect unconditional love from another when YOU are not willing to give it until YOU get it first? is that even right? Love is not a poker game, waiting for the right moment to show your hand, you have life backwards and will CONTINUE to meet relationship failures if you stay on that thought pattern. RECIPROCITY is key!! for the slow learners here, i'll save you the time googling, the basic meaning is MUTUALLY giving at the same time. (i can't help you if you don't know what mutually means though lol)