me

I am not perfect, nor have i ever claimed to be, as a matter of fact, i do not want to be perfect, i like my flaws because they set me apart from others, i love the mistakes i have made because they they are also lessons learned that i can grow from, i embrace my failures because they can be looked at as obstacles i have yet to overcome. i am thankful for all failed relationships as well because i

 learn a little each time with the do's and don't's when it comes to women, i am not a guru because i still have a lot to learn and have many different paths to take, choices to make and blessings to gain through my actions. at times i can be harsh and seem like a mean person but to many of my friends they know i mean well, i have been there for so many people, if i have it to give then i will and my friends and family knows that, they know that i rarely ever say no when they need me. lots of people owe me money and i never hound them for repayment because i know that if they asked for it, they really needed it, i have let others stay at my place free of charge when they needed it and never asked for a dime, i have stayed up late on the phone or even in person to give a friend encouraging words. i try my best to be a good person and only want to be a vessel of blessing to anyone in my life. anyone who knows me personally can speak on my character.

check first

before fucking anyone you need to do a background check, if the word gets out it is just as much your fault as it is theirs, why? because you should have did your research instead of thinking about busting a nut more. now when it comes to social networks, if you blast off in a rage over the news getting out, you just put yourself on front street with the temper tantrum, now anyone who didn't know a thing NOW knows and can go digging, YOU DRY SNITCHING ON YOURSELF lol.......now what?.....try shutting up, and don't feed the dry lurkers, remember some folks don't have shit to do BUT talk, your best bet is to not say anything and let it blow over. also if you are in a situation, don't pop up pissed if shit gets back to them, YOU could have prevented all of it, your boys/girls don't have to know ALL your business. half the stuff you tell them, they telling someone else. class is in session bitches.

Poker love leads to failure

folks we gotta stop with the poker love syndrome, i can't stand to hear a person say "well what are you bringing to the table" or "if they treat me right, i will do right"......what kind of Love are we seeking? how can you expect unconditional love from another when YOU are not willing to give it until YOU get it first? is that even right? Love is not a poker game, waiting for the right moment to show your hand, you have life backwards and will CONTINUE to meet relationship failures if you stay on that thought pattern. RECIPROCITY is key!! for the slow learners here, i'll save you the time googling, the basic meaning is MUTUALLY giving at the same time. (i can't help you if you don't know what mutually means though lol)

50/50 is not enough

for a long time i thought a "50/50" love was what i wanted but i continued to meet disappointment and failure, something was missing and i didn't know what it was. i sat down and finally understood that i can't possibly achieve anything successful in life only giving half my effort so why should i only give half in a relationship? you never see a runner win a race only putting out 50%, you will never get to your destination driving 50% of the way, so why is it in relationships we want to have a  full blown 100% success rate but only giving 50% from each person? it doesn't add up. in life we cannot expect to invest half our effort and get a 100% return, it doesn't make sense. if you are in a relationship and you are both only giving 50% or "meeting in the middle" guess what, you are both bullshitting and will never gain full happiness. you cannot stop yourself from getting hurt by unworthy people you cross in life but even in failure at least you can say you gave your all, that eliminates the "was it me" question in the end. just my 2 cents

Love them for who they are

If you cannot love the one you're with for who they are why try to change them into who you want? I find many people say "they could be so much more" or "I saw potential" OK.......so maybe try letting them see that potential and being supportive rather than arguing about why they are not what you want them to be at that moment. You are never held hostage, you are always free to go, wait but you love them? Or do you love the idea of who they can become? The more time you spend complaining to them, the more resentment grows and guess what, YOU yes YOU become more of the reason they never change than anything else. Why? Because you are slowing them down and becoming a road block in their life's journey instead of an enhancement to the chapters in their life.

love without restraint

Shai Logic 101----Love without restraint---- how many people do it?? well......apparently the people that are still in successful relationships, the thing is you must be WILLING to do it, so many people get caught up in what i call that "poker hand" love where they have an attitude that they will not show anything to contribute to the relationship unless the other person shows first (show me your cards and i'll show you mine) and to  me that is absolute bullshit and when the relationship dies then i have no sympathy because both involved were so pig headed that they never made active steps to give it a chance and nurture it, too busy trying to protect themselves and not taking the time to love each other.

communication

Shai Logic 101 ----focus more on LISTENING more to your partner and UNDERSTANDING their point of view more than trying to out talk them just to get your point across, in reality when the both of you are more focused on getting your points across then you both are not listening to each other. think of it like a CB Radio, you push the button to talk right? well if you are both pushing the button, guess what, nothing is getting through to the other person. it's all about give and take, you GIVE your thoughts and express your feelings about something and they TAKE that information in and process it, then they GIVE you their thoughts and express what they feel and you TAKE that info in, simple concept and the word is Communication. Now lets talk about Reciprocity, simple definition:  mutual exchange , this can be used in many different aspects of the relationship when you think of it, it's much easier to be mutually considerate of the others feelings wants and needs and work together to fulfill those wants and needs in a healthy manner. you cannot sustain a healthy relationship if only one party is willing to do all the work and the other just acts as a sponge or remains negative, this breeds resentment and that can be a powerful deal breaker and become very ugly. most things in life are all about balance.