you CAN succeed

Erase negative energy from your lives, many times we get caught up in the "what ifs" of life and keep ourselves from achieving our goals because we fear failure and that fear alone is enough to discourage us from even trying with all our effort and in essence defeating yourself. there is however a good side to failure, you can learn valuable lessons in it and guess what......you can try again until you succeed, just remember to take notes before attempting again (so you don't look stupid lol). Remember the human mind is a powerful thing, if you believe something to be true, you can bring it into your reality, you must not allow yourself you defeat yourself, we can be our own worst enemies. stay positive and BELIEVE that you can succeed at anything, perception is reality, that means whatever we PERCEIVE to be real in our mind IS real in our lives to us. get out of your own way and start enjoying life the way it is meant to be enjoyed, blessings are waiting.

You are worthy

Ever see a woman that could literally have any man she wants but instead constantly picks the bottom of the barrel loser men? You know the kind, the career dope boy with a %99.7 certain future of frequent jail time or the woman beater and the ever popular "no job baby momma drama stay in HER house while she works" guy. I just think "why are they so stuck on these men who are only called men because they have a penis then complain that "all men ain't shit" and say things on Facebook like "i need a good man"? I figured out a long time ago, some females just don't know what a "good man" is, or how they should be treated, they may have a list of things that they want in a mate but instead of demanding that from a man they often accept the loser in hopes of changing him, attention, he's a good actor or any other reason you can think of. they are so emotionally and mentally beat down that they may not recognize a good man if he simply walked up and said hello. Since many of the women in this topic have usually been screwed over many times the tend to raise their guard and keep it up after each encounter, not knowing that they are hindering their healing process and possibly missing out on the good ones because they get lumped in with every other guy after she gets hurt. Ladies the good guys understand, and that's cool but trust me, its not our job to heal your heart, you must accomplish that alone so you can appreciate a good person and come into new relationships without emotional baggage, its only fair to you both. you gotta realize we are not all the same and you CAN get the man you want once you stop allowing garbage into your life. You deserve better.

team work

So after Michelle Obama gave an amazing speech last night, i gotta say this, LADIES STEP YOUR GAME UP!!! that is what i call support and having your man's back!!! when you see a man really working hard you need to be there for him he NEEDS to know that you are in his corner no matter what, not just when things are going good but even in the bad times. A man has to fight every day in this world (especially a black man) and when it seems like the world is against him, the LAST thing he needs is the person that he loves nit picking at him as well, what i saw last night was the embodiment of a REAL GROWN WOMAN, she just set the bar so high for the barbies and 5 star chics (i detest you all by the way), i bet Barack waxed that ass when she hit the drive way lol. but seriously, what i see in them is true relationship team work. That is just how it should be, we can get far alone but with a GREAT partner you can go the distance. not here to bash women or talk politics at all, just to say, when you have a good man ladies, treat them as such and fellas, when you have a good woman, do the same. Unify and conquer anything in your way, TOGETHER.

me

I am not perfect, nor have i ever claimed to be, as a matter of fact, i do not want to be perfect, i like my flaws because they set me apart from others, i love the mistakes i have made because they they are also lessons learned that i can grow from, i embrace my failures because they can be looked at as obstacles i have yet to overcome. i am thankful for all failed relationships as well because i

 learn a little each time with the do's and don't's when it comes to women, i am not a guru because i still have a lot to learn and have many different paths to take, choices to make and blessings to gain through my actions. at times i can be harsh and seem like a mean person but to many of my friends they know i mean well, i have been there for so many people, if i have it to give then i will and my friends and family knows that, they know that i rarely ever say no when they need me. lots of people owe me money and i never hound them for repayment because i know that if they asked for it, they really needed it, i have let others stay at my place free of charge when they needed it and never asked for a dime, i have stayed up late on the phone or even in person to give a friend encouraging words. i try my best to be a good person and only want to be a vessel of blessing to anyone in my life. anyone who knows me personally can speak on my character.

check first

before fucking anyone you need to do a background check, if the word gets out it is just as much your fault as it is theirs, why? because you should have did your research instead of thinking about busting a nut more. now when it comes to social networks, if you blast off in a rage over the news getting out, you just put yourself on front street with the temper tantrum, now anyone who didn't know a thing NOW knows and can go digging, YOU DRY SNITCHING ON YOURSELF lol.......now what?.....try shutting up, and don't feed the dry lurkers, remember some folks don't have shit to do BUT talk, your best bet is to not say anything and let it blow over. also if you are in a situation, don't pop up pissed if shit gets back to them, YOU could have prevented all of it, your boys/girls don't have to know ALL your business. half the stuff you tell them, they telling someone else. class is in session bitches.

Poker love leads to failure

folks we gotta stop with the poker love syndrome, i can't stand to hear a person say "well what are you bringing to the table" or "if they treat me right, i will do right"......what kind of Love are we seeking? how can you expect unconditional love from another when YOU are not willing to give it until YOU get it first? is that even right? Love is not a poker game, waiting for the right moment to show your hand, you have life backwards and will CONTINUE to meet relationship failures if you stay on that thought pattern. RECIPROCITY is key!! for the slow learners here, i'll save you the time googling, the basic meaning is MUTUALLY giving at the same time. (i can't help you if you don't know what mutually means though lol)

50/50 is not enough

for a long time i thought a "50/50" love was what i wanted but i continued to meet disappointment and failure, something was missing and i didn't know what it was. i sat down and finally understood that i can't possibly achieve anything successful in life only giving half my effort so why should i only give half in a relationship? you never see a runner win a race only putting out 50%, you will never get to your destination driving 50% of the way, so why is it in relationships we want to have a  full blown 100% success rate but only giving 50% from each person? it doesn't add up. in life we cannot expect to invest half our effort and get a 100% return, it doesn't make sense. if you are in a relationship and you are both only giving 50% or "meeting in the middle" guess what, you are both bullshitting and will never gain full happiness. you cannot stop yourself from getting hurt by unworthy people you cross in life but even in failure at least you can say you gave your all, that eliminates the "was it me" question in the end. just my 2 cents