beat that ass

imagine who you would be if we didn't get our butt beat back then. Our parents kept us in check, we would be dead, in jail or have kids running around like every other statistic out there. I'm so glad they were hard on us and gave a damn enough to get on us when we needed it.

The parents that try to be their kids friends are the ones that end up visiting them in prison and baby sitting the ratchet grand kids on club night. There are consequences to every action as a kid and when you do bad or don't mind your elders we got our tail beat. The entire neighborhood had permission to break their foot off in our ass. We need more of that these days. Too many whining folks crying over bad kids getting what they deserve.

It truly does take a village to raise a child but now these days the whole village is messed up. So many fatherless children, young men never becoming grown men and too many young women taking the whore route because their mothers lack parental skills too. It's all bad. I think a fair balance of the different styles of parenting is needed and a CLEAR line has to be drawn letting kids know who is the authority.

Things are crazy these days. And folks wonder why so many school shootings happen and suicides. Kids are so babied and pussified these days. We grew up where if you got into it with a bully at school back then you fight until that bastard learns to leave you alone. We grew up when "time out" didn't exist, Dr Phil was still in College and Maury wasn't doing paternity tests on TV to entertain idiots. Back when getting kicked in the chest was an appropriate response to talking back to your parents and "imma give you something to cry for" was a translation for "I took it easy on you, shut up". Now you can catch a charge just for raising your kids the way you see fit, allowing these "experts" to guide you in how you raise your kids yet they DO NOT live in your household, what applies to one kid does not work for the next. i'm a fan of the Old School.......beat that ass

Freedom from Failure

There is no destiny that you do not take part in creating, LIFE is what you make of it. If all you experience is hurt pain and misery and you choose to dwell within the confined bars of your mental jail cell then that CAN and WILL BE your reality. Hitting the figurative "rock bottom" is NOT your final destination, unless you allow it to become your reality. Just remember, when you hit the bottom there is only one direction left and that is UP. You CAN change your reality, you CAN break the bars of your captivity within your heart, soul and mind. YOU can be your worst enemy and until YOU realize that, you may never be free. Let go of bad memories, failures, set backs and everything that places fear within you to not succeed. Failure in your endeavors are only test runs before success. There is always a lesson to be learned in every experience, whether you choose to accept it is up to you. Find Freedom within yourself because Failure is not final, it's only a first step to success.

Females in the Military........my thoughts

I think that a woman in the Military can do whatever she sets her mind to, only because i have seen it with my own eyes during my 13 year military career. Once i was a young Corporal leading a convoy and we had to escort a Female Army Sergeant and her soldiers to another location, then continue on to our mission elsewhere in Iraq, we were attacked and one of her soldiers was shot in the neck by a sniper, she died instantly and we had to stop the convoy and return fire. The Marines i served with and the Army soldiers that were with us male and female held there own, we managed to fight off the assault, kill a handful of the enemy and get out of there with minor wounded and 1 dead. the thing is, once you get into a situation like that, and the bullets start flying passed your head, the gender of the person next to you becomes a non issue. you just know that that person has your back, they are your lifeline and you are theirs.

 People say that women will be a big distraction but believe me, nothing is a bigger distraction than a 7.62 mm round shot from an AK 47 lol. the reality is that their are women in combat Jobs already, there are female special teams out there in the Army right now doing patrols, security and various duties, Marine martial arts instructors even in construction like the Navy Sea Bees. any Job you choose in the military can become a potential combat MOS, why? because all military members are trained as a Rifleman and soldier as their base function. the question has never really been can women do the job in the Armed Forces that a man can do. The answer to that is that they already are. the real question is when will the rest of America accept it. -----salute to my female military members

Grown man behavior 101

I have never asked for a woman's number, i feel like if it's meant for me to have it and she is feeling me, after or during our conversation she will offer to communicate more (opening a chance to gain the number) or she will just offer it straight out, then that way i have never had to wonder if she was actually interested in me or she was just being nice without the intent to follow up. just my logic though. there shouldn't be any reason to rush, you gotta understand that she most likely gets asked for her number all the time and one thing you don't want to do is fall into a category with the rest of the knuckle heads she encounters. your job is to stand out, so why hit her with game and lines when everyone else already does? Actually being yourself can usually do that for you, now guess what, you have a base line of who you are established, you don't have to hide who you are because she has seen it already AND most of all, you don't have to lie. no point in hounding her when you got time to actually develop a relationship/friendship over time, also, most people just go off looks initially so the interest is only physical and after you get a number TOO fast then find out on the phone you picked a pretty idiot, then what lol. waste of time lol, then there are the guys who waste a woman's time with game in the beginning then they fall off later and she thinks he changed, in reality he just got comfortable and started being himself.

 that first impression will stay with her and to her you are a genuine guy compared to whatever else she has met. now there are some women who are just attracted to the idiots and the "real niggas"......that can't be helped, you have two choices now if you meet one of these women, you can (A) try to show her that a Grown man is better than a "real nigga" or (B) you can run like hell because it may be a lost cause lol. now if you didn't get her number the first time meeting, don't worry. if you carried yourself well and she has the sense to differentiate between a man who respects boundaries and has patience for things worth waiting for, the next time you meet your first impression has been on her mind since that day maybe. she's thought about it and most likely will be eager for the second encounter, just continue to be yourself and see what happens, no need for fake charm if you don't already possess that trait........sorry bro, can't help you there.

 if all goes well, things should progress naturally and well......you get the picture. REMEMBER she is not an object to gain possession of, she is a person. (this has been PSA titled "Grown man behavior 101" ---disclaimer, if any of my exes read this, i may not have been like this back then but i've learned a lot over the years, High school Shai doesn't count and college Shai, let's not even bring him into this lol)

Dead beat Dads

PSA for Dead Beat Fathers everywhere: .......I hate you sorry sons of bitches, you make me sick to my stomach you low life bastards. Now that I got that out of the way. Sit down let me talk to you punk muthafu**as. It's tax season, so NOW you want to get along with your children's mother? You want to see the kids and even buy Christmas presents but ALL YEAR where were you when school clothes needed to be purchased, field trips needed to be financed, food needed to be bought so they could eat another day? So on and so on. You mean to tell me YOU have the audacity to want to claim a child on your taxes which YOU barely acknowledged all year? You want to get extra money claiming a dependent that actually depended on their MOTHER or another man instead of you? And YOU really think that's cool? You gave NOTHING in the realm of fatherhood whether it be TIME, MONEY, ENERGY, WISDOM, ADVICE, BEING A ROLE MODEL, TEACHER, MENTOR, LOVE, AFFECTION, NOTHING, yet you feel  you are obligated to reap the benefits of carrying a child on your taxes in which you will most likely spend on yourself or some whore you are with now?  What bundle of brain cells  deemed this retarded logic as a legit train of thought? You are the lowest of the low and deserve NOTHING in return for your lack of manhood and even less for your poor display of responsibility. Your life is worthless, YOU are worthless and the ONLY thing you ever did right in this world is help create a wonderful child. If this offended any men out there who make excuses for not taking care of their child, GOOD!! Raising Your child is not a job, it is your DUTY as a man and father. YOU are responsible for their future. Salute to any man who can step in and take care of a child who is not biologically theirs and salute to single mothers, I know it's hard.

my thoughts on Django

 Satirical in nature but it does contain some mirror images of a few mindsets that some African Americans have today. For the most part, I don't think many folks got what they expected from the movie and just laughed at the idiotic parts without looking into much. Truth is, many of the gruesome things that occurred in the movie actually occurred to our ancestors, although we were mostly spoonfed the watered down versions in school in the form of a short section in the history book that glazed over it. Was it a western? In a sense, was the plot super complicated? Not at all, was it a slave "payback" movie? Ahhhh.....not really, it was at best, a mixed bag of truths thinly hidden with a comical overlay and cheesy plot with a happy ending. It is what it is, call it the new millennium blacksploitation film. And I must count how many times the word "nigger, nigga and nigguhs" was used next time I watch it. The young adults who were in the theater laughed like there was no tomorrow, obviously un-phased by anything and easily entertained. The people in my age range sat in silence during the more serious parts (the killing of one slave in a rather brutal way) because we know those sorts of things actually happened back then. And the much older folks also sat in complete stillness, some even left. So what I gathered from this observation is that there is an important need for our TRUE history to be uncovered, and past down through the generations. It is becoming diluted and is continuously covered by the lies and systematic "wool over the eyes" tactics in a sense. Spike Lee may not agree with the movie but then again I ask, what is he doing in his position to change the portrayal of us as opposed to his previous work. I hope if anything a spark is lit in some young viewers and they are compelled to look deeper into their own past. the movie is a necessary evil in my opinion. 

State of Hip Hop as i see it

these days talent has nothing to do with Hip Hop, ever since Hip Hop met the industry side of the business, it began to die, young artists were and still are being exploited and the reality of it is it's no longer social commentary but rather dreams and false imagery being sold to appeal to the masses in the pursuit of the all mighty dollar. the pawns (artists) are disposable. Present day Hip Hop is no longer a major outlet for artists and they are now faced with the decision of whether they want to stay true to their Love of the music and virtually not make a living or conform to the industry formula and in essence sell their soul for fame. as far as Jay and Nas go, Nas is one of my favorite Artists. he is a better lyricist in my opinion but Jay is a better business man but both are Legends in their own right. nuff said. as far as freestyles go, their are very few that still exist that can truly freestyle, then again, we just have never seen them, there are plenty of unsigned artists that i am sure can destroy any one of our favorites, hell i know a few here. problem is now, record companies are signing the Chief keef's and trinidad james type artists, no substance or skills present whatsoever. anything that actually makes you think to get a metaphor or punch line, usually doesn't make it far. i see a true revolution coming where independent artists and even the artists that are bound by contracts will break free and begin a new movement taking back what was started so long ago. Hip Hop is not dead, just in Hibernation. #BLKsunday