Resilience

A few months ago I talked about a homeless Marine vet that I met outside a Walgreens one night and how we shared war stories and how I watched him dig through the trash for food and pray over left overs someone had tossed away, it was almost a full meal. His spirit and resilience was so strong that I was in awe in the mans presence because these days BLESSED people with the luxury of a home, steady income and more than a weeks worth of clothes still feel the need to complain over what they do not have. I was so touched by this Old Marines strength that I reached into my pocket and gave him all the money I had, I gave him old jackets and USMC sweats that had been in my trunk for years so he could be warm. I gave him the food I had just purchased from the bar and after receiving it he literally dropped to his knees and started praying, crying and thanking God. I tried to give him my beyonet (military knife that can be fitted onto your rifle in close quarter combat) but he refused it, hey said "no Devil Dog, I won't take your teeth away, ooo rah I'm just thankful for the food, just don't forget me brother". -----I just saw him again crossing the underpass by the carmax. He had his rucksack and my old jacket and sweats rolled up on top of his bag still. Right then I was compelled to go get him some food and talk again. I went and got breakfast and came back but he was gone, so I searched and found him. As soon as I let down my window he remembered me and said "HEY YOUNG DEVIL DOG HOW ARE YOU?" I reached down and gave him the food I bought, the smile on his face and the light in his eyes lit up. Everyone else in their cars were just ignoring him before then, like he was just a burden to be avoided. They had no idea that he had fought in one of America's bloodiest wars before VA benefits  or even post traumatic stress disorder had been established or recognized. I told him I had to go but I had to be a vessel of blessing for a friend. We gripped hands and he just smiled with his long white beard and said "I thank you brother, I really do". I began to drive off and got filled with such an overwhelming feeling of happiness because I know that man is a brother to me for life, and if things were switched that he would do the same for me. God puts us right where we need to be at the precise moment we need to be there. I realize that I am built to be a vessel of blessing to others, all my life that is what I have reluctantly been, I use to hate having to help someone everytime my phone rang but now I see that its what I am made for. It always comes back to me 10 times better. So I accept it. Help someone today folks, its worth it. 

Whats REALLY sexy to us grown men

Ladies.......you know one thing that's REALLY sexy to a grown man? Not the way you wear your 6 inch heels, your great fashion sense or even your exotic hair adventures. This is one thing that will AMAZE us and really set the bar high for any other woman that dares look at your man. I know some of you are thinking "shai just spit it out already, the suspense is killing us". OK I'll tell you.

A WOMAN WITH A CLEAN HOUSE!!!!

That's right, a woman with a clean house is SUCH a turn on. Why? Because after seeing bathroom models with dirty mirrors in horrible looking bathrooms and piles of dirty clothes in the background while some chics pose looking all fly but failing to throw away the used Pampers in the waste basket......a clean house REALLY stands out LOL. 

Now I know not every woman does this so don't get your panties in a bunch LOL. I dated a woman once and I swear her house always smelled like dirty diapers and old hamburgers  (I CANT MAKE THIS STUFF UP FOLKS). Then the kitchen was always filled with dirty dishes, she couldn't cook so we always ate out, and the bed room.......*having traumatic flashback* ......I swear you had to climb over clothes just to get to the bed, needless to say it looked like Katrina hit that place but if you saw her out in public she looked like a mix between Evelyn Lozonda and Paula Patton and dressed "ready for the runway fresh" (yeah I have great taste as far as looks goes......too bad she was nastier than a cockroach that survived nuclear fall out). Moral of the story here, it takes more than looks to get and keep a grown man Ladies (before you say a word, shut up I know there are some guys out there who have dirty houses too, just sit down I got this LOL).

  You can't only focus on your appearance and neglet everything else, a man that only wants you for your looks alone will sniff after anything in a tight skirt, get a Guy who is appreciative of all aspects of your being. My uncle told me Beauty fades. So if looks is all you have to offer then you can only milk that for so long and a bad attitude and spirit can make even the prettiest face look ugly. Balance yourself and your life will follow suit.

Soulmate logic

when you "grow old together" if you ever find that person, "looks" become irrelevant because the love (if it's true) has transcended that part of human nature, we are all just spirits inhabiting flesh and bone vessels , think about it, why would any of us look for a "soul mate" if the body was a factor in the end? folks love has no color, weight or eyes, it is unbiased to those who are truly open to it without a filter of physical traits one must possess before being allowed into our presence. love IS blind.

Nurturing real love

Nurturing REAL Love ----many times in the arena of "dating" we find ourselves bogged down with "what ifs" and questions if someones words are genuine when dealing with emotional situations,  that is totally natural but beware of over thinking your way into storm of doubt. Remember none of us were given instructions on how to be the perfect mate, many factors come into the picture on this subject. 

Some folks have never observed what Love looks or feels like so its easy to get confused, it can also be VERY unnerving and scary. Never try to force love or "make it work" that's like trying to put a square peg into a round hole and most likely end in disappointment , true love comes naturally and without effort you just have to be patient and let it grow within you and when dealing with another person you have to nurture it like a seedling so that strong roots develop and create an unbreakable bond between the two of you. In a world of "overnight love" and "fast flings" its easy to mistake lust for love, just take the time to search your metaphorical heart for the truth, don't be in such a rush, the journey is just as fulfilling as the destination.

Women thinking like men

This is a re-post of my opinion of the "think like a man" movement.  Adding some more thoughts as well.

Thinking like a man and being a woman will only get your feelings hurt in the long run, keep in mind you are still a woman and as such you are by nature an emotional creature. With that said, you cannot suppress your true self for long unless you plan to completely lose your womanly Essence and that would be tragic to say the least. How can you adopt the mindset of what you believe to be a mans mindset without ever being one? Some women only think they have it figured out from what they perceive to be how a man thinks. If you are basing your assumptions solely on the assholes you have encountered would that not make you just as bad as them? So then if you claim to be a "good woman" won't you basically nullify that title? ........I say stay a woman in all that the gender encompasses,  do not attempt to be, act or think like something you have no idea how to be. Just  Become a better YOU, changing your behavior when its not really you is like putting on a mask, then it means you're just fake, so how can you demand that a man be "real" with you and you are not being real with yourself? that's the bottom line. I think the the entire message is getting misinterpreted by the masses due to low intelligence and easily manipulated minds. Not calling anyone stupid but if you have ever said anything resembling this --->"flip the script on them once in a while, they can dish it out but can't take it...." then you are lost. First of all WHY are you dealing with someone that you must play games with to get treated right? Secondly are you listening to how Hoodrattishly bitter you sound? (Yes I just made that word up......Sue me LOL). Letting your mind become warped by the stereotypical images of the "men vs women" saga will have you alone and bitter faster than a Hoe gets pregnant at all star weekend....that's pretty damn fast. You must THINK for yourselves and BE the woman you are meant to be, seek guidance from better sources than Taylor Perry movies and girlfriends reruns sometimes and PLEASE stop looking up to RHOA and the basketball sluts *ahem* I mean "wives" as role models. I think the exaggerated portrayals of what a black woman should do, say and act like are destroying your true Essence.  Come back to reality. (Disclaimer if you are feeling some type of way about my post and missed the message, I'm not sorry, you probably needed to read this if it pissed you off)

Make her the main course

PUSSY EATING!!------ first of all i love when a woman straddles my face, lowers herself down just above my mouth and i grab her thighs while she grabs the backboard. then i start with some slow licks to feel out where everything is located and make sure i control my breath so the hot air stimulates her pussy. as i am licking i push my tongue inside gently every few licks so she feels my warm tongue enter her hot spot. her knees may start to get weak so (at this point i usually lay her down on her back and continue and i put her legs on my shoulders) as i am doing all this i reach up and caress her breast, firmly but not to rough. when i feel that it's time to turn up the heat i sometimes cover her pussy with my lips and make my tongue go faster while it's inside her, up and down and side to side, no teeth involved (that's a no no, this aint no chewing gum) ---now it's time to really mess her head up. i get to the clit and place my lips around it and start to suck it gently while my tongue twirls around it in alternating directions. every now and then i lick my tongue out to trace the opening #MultiTasking (if she likes fingers involved i will curl my index finger up into her G-Spot and massage it while sucking the clit) -------by now or even before then she should be squirming and looking like a break dancer lol-----she will either grab the back of my head or grab the sheets now........this means she is about to BLOW!! and being the asshole that i am......you guessed it, i start sucking a little harder and really moving my tongue around it, i want her to damn near pass out off this orgasm. then POOOOOOOOW, she cums, but nope i hold the legs to my shoulders and keep licking, slowing it down a bit but keeping contact, legs shaking, loud moaning, a few "im cummings, oh shits!! and maybe a oooo daddy" ........and then after it's all said and done......i pull out the pole, yes dear Dick (the other other dark meat) is on the menu so don't get up yet!!

TRAYVON

When the Trayvon Martin tragedy begins to become more of a media circus instead of a public outcry you know society and the world in general is really messed up. It went from a horrible event and display of true darkness in a mans heart strong enough to make him take another humans life, To a racially charged media frenzy,  where every washed up actor wants to rekindle their 15 minutes that have long fizzled out. We are beginning to see Trayvon Martin T-Shirts being sold in the Hood, I guess they cared momentarily but then realized "better get on my hustle".....its pathetic.  Now every politician running for any office has to speak out......but for all the wrong reasons. Now the "hoodie" pic has become the cool thing to do, provided many have done it for the right reasons, there are some who are just bandwagon riders. And last but not least the news channel scavengers, speculating on court room strategies .........meanwhile the man responsible WALKS FREE! Regardless of race, color or creed, a child was murdered and the person that committed the crime walks untouched.we live in a world where MONEY is the get out of jail free card and your innocence can be purchased at a discount. Truth and justice barely exist any more, its all dependent on who can lie the best to the jury . Celebrities speak but wont donate a dime until it becomes the "cool thing" to do,  news shows don't give a damn until ratings need a boost, politicians wont speak out until voters need to be stimulated, bandwagon folks wont do anything until it effects them and is at their front door. I commend everyone who are ACTUALLY doing something,  the folks who attended the rallies and voiced their disdain for a horrible injustice.  Truth be told, I don't care why The boy was in that neighborhood,  what I DO care about is that YOU, ME, OUR CHILDREN are not in a "free county " if we can't simply walk wherever we want free of senseless harassment,  but guess what........if that's the case......some of us have never been free.