me

I am not perfect, nor have i ever claimed to be, as a matter of fact, i do not want to be perfect, i like my flaws because they set me apart from others, i love the mistakes i have made because they they are also lessons learned that i can grow from, i embrace my failures because they can be looked at as obstacles i have yet to overcome. i am thankful for all failed relationships as well because i

 learn a little each time with the do's and don't's when it comes to women, i am not a guru because i still have a lot to learn and have many different paths to take, choices to make and blessings to gain through my actions. at times i can be harsh and seem like a mean person but to many of my friends they know i mean well, i have been there for so many people, if i have it to give then i will and my friends and family knows that, they know that i rarely ever say no when they need me. lots of people owe me money and i never hound them for repayment because i know that if they asked for it, they really needed it, i have let others stay at my place free of charge when they needed it and never asked for a dime, i have stayed up late on the phone or even in person to give a friend encouraging words. i try my best to be a good person and only want to be a vessel of blessing to anyone in my life. anyone who knows me personally can speak on my character.

check first

before fucking anyone you need to do a background check, if the word gets out it is just as much your fault as it is theirs, why? because you should have did your research instead of thinking about busting a nut more. now when it comes to social networks, if you blast off in a rage over the news getting out, you just put yourself on front street with the temper tantrum, now anyone who didn't know a thing NOW knows and can go digging, YOU DRY SNITCHING ON YOURSELF lol.......now what?.....try shutting up, and don't feed the dry lurkers, remember some folks don't have shit to do BUT talk, your best bet is to not say anything and let it blow over. also if you are in a situation, don't pop up pissed if shit gets back to them, YOU could have prevented all of it, your boys/girls don't have to know ALL your business. half the stuff you tell them, they telling someone else. class is in session bitches.

Poker love leads to failure

folks we gotta stop with the poker love syndrome, i can't stand to hear a person say "well what are you bringing to the table" or "if they treat me right, i will do right"......what kind of Love are we seeking? how can you expect unconditional love from another when YOU are not willing to give it until YOU get it first? is that even right? Love is not a poker game, waiting for the right moment to show your hand, you have life backwards and will CONTINUE to meet relationship failures if you stay on that thought pattern. RECIPROCITY is key!! for the slow learners here, i'll save you the time googling, the basic meaning is MUTUALLY giving at the same time. (i can't help you if you don't know what mutually means though lol)

50/50 is not enough

for a long time i thought a "50/50" love was what i wanted but i continued to meet disappointment and failure, something was missing and i didn't know what it was. i sat down and finally understood that i can't possibly achieve anything successful in life only giving half my effort so why should i only give half in a relationship? you never see a runner win a race only putting out 50%, you will never get to your destination driving 50% of the way, so why is it in relationships we want to have a  full blown 100% success rate but only giving 50% from each person? it doesn't add up. in life we cannot expect to invest half our effort and get a 100% return, it doesn't make sense. if you are in a relationship and you are both only giving 50% or "meeting in the middle" guess what, you are both bullshitting and will never gain full happiness. you cannot stop yourself from getting hurt by unworthy people you cross in life but even in failure at least you can say you gave your all, that eliminates the "was it me" question in the end. just my 2 cents