Men and males

There's a HUGE difference between MEN and typical MALES .......that's the most simple way I can explain this lol. A grown man will not play mind games with you or make you question his motives, trust me, you will know EVERY intention he has with you and whether or not you fit into his future AND at what capacity. A typical male will not be what you are looking for ever, bottom line. He'll ACT the part to get what he wants from you and possibly string you along if you allow it but that's it. Discernment is very important. Many women (also different than typical females) have been dealing with males and to be honest don't know how to act when they encounter a grown man that's about truly building. Often times her doubt alone can cause her to over think and even mess up the situation. Why? Because she's throwing up guards that are usually reserved for the typical males she's been dating.

And sadly, a grown man usually won't have time to rebuild you, not being cold but it's more of a headache tearing down walls THEN getting to know YOU than just seeking a ready and compatible woman who's ready. That's my take on it. 

Winning isn't everything

Winning isn't everything but it sure feels great when you get use to it. Truth is, losing isn't a total loss when you learn something from it. Don't be afraid to fail every now and then, sometimes the lessons learned can teach you more about yourself than you ever knew. That in itself is a win on another level. .....

Now if you lose ALL the time, that's not a win, you actually suck at life......no seriously..... Kill yourself lolol. (Don't do that, I'm joking......you still suck though)

That's my random thought for the day. Have a good one folks.

Black men, Mediocre should not be our default setting

Some men are out to become successful just to get women, in my opinion that's even worse because they are doing it for all the wrong reasons. Any success gained holds less value and adds nothing to the overall person in the realm of development. The ambitious nature is only manifested in order to attract women for sex and not to better self and community as a whole, that in my opinion is a man lead by the wrong head and is of no use to anyone forward thinking. We've got to hold ourselves to a higher standard fellas. While it's true, many women are attracted to success, understand that many of the wrong women are as well. You can't base the quality of the woman on your level of success without good skills of discernment. You can end up broke that way. 

I can agree that some men do those things for pussy or a "look at me now" reason more than anything. As far as financial stability, that's a funny one seeing as how many men can talk their way into pussy (doesn't matter the race) for free by "running game" and selling dreams to avoid the friendzone (tossed that in for the gripers) lol. And again if they can do that without actually having the money they have no motivation to actually live the life they portray, this holds true for any man not just one race. We gotta get out of this whole race thing, gets old. Time to stop focusing on others. Truth is, pussy rules some men's lives and that in itself is a problem. Making too many excuses and trying to be "real niggas" is a problem. 

Many men have a practice of "just getting by" and blaiming others when they cannot succeed. Truth is too many lack the drive to actually work hard to succeed in anything. Too many are comfortable with mediocrity. Then if any woman downs him because she sees the potential in him, they claim that she's emasculating him. Truth is son you emasculated yourself the minute you thought a woman would accept you in your current state. If you are comfortable just getting by no respectable woman will want you pulling her down as well. You can't expect her to submit if you barely have drive to become more. You have to get off your ass and stop trying to just get some ass and focus on gaining assets. That's logical. Get your priorities in order. That's a whole other discussion in itself. 

As men we should strive to better ourselves in all aspects, not just financial stability. Personal development, spiritual strengthening, leadership skills and mental strength are all important as well to become a more complete being. Mediocre should never be our default setting.