Love you Mom

Happy Mother's day to all the mothers out there. And to Maureen Givens I Love you and I Miss you immensely. I miss playing Nintendo with you and laughing at how you always moved the entire controller every time you made mario jump. Gaming was our bond. I remember you letting me play with you on your Atari for the first time. I didn't know then but I know now that it was your way of getting through to me.

I was such a closed off guarded child and during those moments you and I would talk about everything.  Lol, you jedi mind tricked me. You were tough on us growing up but you were fair, you loved us so much that you pushed us to become better than average.  You protected from and prepared us for the world you knew was out there. I didn't know at the time why you did the things you did but as I grow older it all makes sense.

Before you passed away we got closer than ever. I remember sitting on that porch swing with you talking and just being silly with you. I remember my last time seeing you, sick in bed. You couldn't talk but you could hear me. It was Friday, I had to drive to Jackson, I said "Mommy I love and I'll see you sunday, I'll be back" I kissed your forehead and you nodded your head. That was the last time I saw you. You passed away before I could return. 

I'm just glad that we got to be so close before you left this Earth. That's all I ever wanted. You and Dad made me strong and I Love you both for everything you've done for me. I can't put into words how appreciative I am. You both make my life worth living and I'll pass on all the wisdom you've instilled in me. You two are truly wonderful,  amazing and cherished people.

Thank you for choosing us to be your children

The single mom stigma

A single mother that has learned to use better judgment in choosing the men she dates has every right to have high standards. She's actively taking accountability for her previous mistakes and choosing to do better by filtering the scum types out from the door.

Some people try to make it seem like a woman is "damaged goods" because she has a child but don't take into account the possibility of failed marriages,  lying men whole played the good guy role then ducked off and/or failed birth control. There are too many factors and possibilities to simply demonize single mothers under one stigma. Also, why aren't Sorry men reprimanded/ridiculed and forced to be held accountable for their actions at the same level? It should be equal across the board. There ARE single mothers who do NOT fit the description of the baby momma with multiple baby daddys. I've learned that it's not fair to judge before knowing a person's story. Some are GREAT women and you could miss out because you judged too soon.