Be the catalyst

If you've waited all year to tell someone you love them, you've done them and yourself a disservice because you may have missed out on some of the best memories of your life with them.

If you've waited a whole year to choose to make a change in yourself to better your life. You've failed at creating the best YOU that ever existed. regardless of what day it is though, nothing counts as a total failure unless you never try. So don't wait until the last minute to do anything that can better your life and those around you.

As long as the breath of life resides within your body you can do anything you set your mind to. All you have to do is make the first step. Be the catalyst of change in your life and start a chain reaction in others. Have an awesome day.

Black women and American beauty standards

A lot of times I think that Black women in America have been forced to deny their natural beauty and made to think that every other trait outside of their own is superior and they should strive to attain it by shedding their inherited ones. Whether it be via colored contacts, blonde hair, straight hair, lighter skin or whatever.  I think that we need to encourage them to embrace their natural selves and help them to be confident and not ashamed of what they were born with.

We should not do this through criticism first because we have to understand the physiological effects of a European based beauty standard crammed down their throats has done over the years. Also us men in a large number were effected and made to think these traits were more desirable as well. Not all have accepted the "standard" though and many of us WANT more natural women. There's nothing wrong with weave and these things in a small amount when it comes to enhancing what already exists but when it becomes the thing that defines you, it's a problem. As a Black man, I'm saying We love you. We appreciate you. If we complain about something,  it's exactly for those reasons.